On the nature of reaction and the reasons for understanding it
This denial is manifested by reaction. We cannot completely accept the Reality God except through completely accepting ourselves. And we cannot completely accept ourselves except through complete self-understanding. Reaction is the manifestation of unbelief, an unwillingness to understand.
In order to truly understand ourselves we must first understand the nature and origins of reaction itself and know how we can heal it in others by taking responsibility for it and seeing it in ourselves. Reactions are made obvious to us by observing our responses to other people, since in the final analysis, we are all one people and all reflect in each other either affirming or disowned or misrepresented aspects of ourselves. We like it and are comfortable when we receive a reflection of a part of ourselves of which we approve. We dislike it or are uncomfortable when we receive reflections to the parts of ourselves with which we are still unfamiliar. This dislike manifests in the form of a discomfort and a corrective defensive reaction.
Forgiveness can be found in understanding the explanation that reaction indicates a simple ignorance, and why we react to this ignorance. Reaction indicates that we have obviously not investigated ourselves sufficiently and therefore still harbor doubts, and some hidden fears.
Why ignorance is one of the worst of our fears
We are very intolerant of ourselves, and we are intolerant of ignorance above all things, because in this particular mass belief system of materialism and compensatory acquisition, the mind and of the supremacy of mental superiority is very important, and ignorance is the (ego) death, and nobody wants to die.
But recognition of ignorance is an act of faith.
This intolerance is also a good thing, for the
is the driving force behind our insatiable quest for knowledge, which
Islamic tradition is a manifestation of the true believer.
Understanding ignorance and the nature of innocence
Understanding the innocence of ignorance leads us to tolerance. We all love the innocence, and it can be found with in us all, if we care to look. This is not to say that all ignorance is innocent. There is also the possibility of a great deception in it. Ignorance is often used as a claim, in a reactive defensive deception, simply because of its assumed innate innocence. True innocence is childlike, and this truth can be pretended in an attempt to hide behind it. But underlying even that, there is an ignorance that is of our true innocence. And that exist still within every heart that beats, and it is the work of the individual and of religions and of spiritual paths, to touch that innocence and bring it forward for its just reward of love and a peaceful life.
If we can accept that reaction equals (self-) ignorance, and therefore become more investigative and willing to explore hidden possibilities, we will come to the ability to tolerate ourselves in our discomfort, and thereby get to the goal of conquering our fears. One who has conquered, or is at least tolerant and self-understanding of his fears, is able thereby to help and understand others, and needs no longer use the defensive mechanism of rejection.
Understanding leads to tolerance and tolerance leads to the elimination of Denial
This is the elimination of denial, which can and should be the goal of, and used by, Muslims and psychologists the world over for the healing of individual and cultural differences through understanding the nature of the self that reacts and the self that truly know and experiences Divinity.
Q. And what is it again that we are in denial of?
A. We are always and only in denial of self, love and God. All three or any one or two. If you are in complete self-acceptance, Divine Love and Divinity will pour through you, in the very deepest way. This is enlightenment and then you have obtained the point and goal of religion and spirituality and need seek no further. If you have not, or find yourself in reaction to this statement or that person in any way, then please continue on your pathway of self-investigation. I wish here to reiterate the popular phrase, "An un-investigated life is not worth living."
Denial is the opposite of acceptance. It is the act of negating the effect of an affirmation through disavowing association with any truth in the statement. It is the act of defending oneself from association or affiliation with that which is judged reprehensible. Not wanting to share in the supposed punishment of such erroneous beliefs. It is for the most part, a fear-based reaction and as such, rejecting and deliberately devoid of any compassion or attempt to understand.
Denial is an act. It is both physical, in that it tenses the body as though in fear, and the basis of the action of tension is admittedly fear. Ask a denier why he denies and he will always state fear as a base motivation for denial. Or he'll say that he simply doesn’t believe it, and further investigation will reveal a fear-based reason for that too.
Denial is an act in the other sense too, that of a play, or a pretense. So denial is also an act of conscious pretense. There accompanies it a deep feeling that "this is the way I gotta be", a sense of urgency as though defending oneself from a blow to the head or body.
Look at the word pretense, at first glance, it obviously derives from pretending or acting, but it actually says, "pre-tense", as in to tense oneself preemptively, which is the primary defensive reaction. A defensive action is always indicative of the presence of some fear.
But true Surrender is the release of and the freedom from all fear, as all enlightened masters and millions of other truly surrendered and happy people will tell you. Even the most abjectly poor people on the streets of Bombay and Calcutta will show you that they at least know how to be happy and free of fear.
Q. So can we investigate the nature and origins of fear?
A. Sure. Fear is the result of sociological impositions, false responsibilities, dark hands passed over the head of light to interfere with or alter direct experience. We'll get to that in another work. The ultimate fear is of death, even though it is inevitable, we continue to fear it instead of using it as it was originally intended, as a tool for understanding, and knowing God and our true nature. But I will go on to show how understanding the Divine revelation will alleviate this fear entirely, but in the way of enlightened living, and not in the way of fear-driven suicides.
Q. Can you speak more on death and realization?